Looking back at my son Ryan's 1st year of life I wonder where did my sweet little boy go? I am so frustrated with him, so impatient and so confused on what to do with him. When he was a baby he was everyone's favorite. Loveable, hugable, and always happy. He never cried and he was always content. He was the opposite of Jacob when he was a baby. Now they have switched roles only a baby is a lot easier to deal with then a 4 year old.
I have tried everything with him. I have had so many advice from those around me on what I should do but nothing seems to work. He is 4 years old and he still will try and run from me after I get him out of the car. If I am not careful he will one day get hit by a car. Is it the middle child syndrome? Did I do something wrong along the way.
He whines and cries about EVERYTHING! He is a poor sport, If he loses at a game or a race he throws a fit, he gives up too easily if he doesn't get it the first time, he doesn't have a desire to learn, he doesn't play well with other kids because he is so bossy. I see him play soccer and I am so embarrassed by his behavior. The other day he asked to go play at the neighbors house at 9:30 at night. I of course said no... he walked right out that door and completely ignored me when I told him to come back home.
We have tried time out (Doesn't work.... he got even worse), we have tried spanking ( he doesn't care), we have tried taking things away (it doesn't bother him), we have tried rewarding him for his good behavior (it works temporarily).
After a long week by myself without my husband around to help I have had a lot of time to think about what I should do with him. I worry that if I don't figure it out soon we will hit the point of no return. I am trying something new.... and I hope it works. It is kind of last resort for me. I was told to treat him like a baby if he wants to act like one. So today we have put our 4-year old back in a diaper and giving him cups with lids. I feed him in the high chair, I hold his hand when he cleans up his toys.
It is breaking my heart because he is so heartbroken about the diaper. He is soooo embarassed. He never ever hits me or kicks me but when I put the diaper on him he kept kicking his feet at me because he was so angry. He screamed in his room for over an hour kicking the floor, the bed, the wall.... I just don't know what to do.... He is one of those kids you see on the street and say... "My kid will never act that way!" But it changes when you have a kid that acts that way.
Any advice you all may have is great... I am so upset and so frustrated right now. I just worry about him and his future. Sometimes I feel like giving up... because I am tired and I feel like my efforts are worthless.... I'm really wishing Josh was here to help. But even when he is around Ryan still acts this way it is just easier to manage with a second set of hands....
Did anyone go through this? Is there ANY advice. I have just had a terrible week with him and I just don't want to lose control of him. I really want him to be obedient and respectful. Jacob is wonderful and listens to everything I tell him to do and Madison is learning but she is still 18 months old so she still has her moments. But Ryan is just in his own little world. Sometimes I think he has the mentality of a 2 year old....